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Possible laws of human nature (my own, at least) uncovered during this past years' adventures in self-reflection.

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Comment by lima on January 3, 2011 at 10:31pm

yes, 1... I agree, its like they are trying to convince themselves they are this positive trait or that positive trait... usually these traits don't need to be pushed on others, for they can be seen by their actions.

 

You lost me on two... I am thinking perhaps its something that is going on within you.  YES! gotcha!  I think I know what you are talking about... example, you were negative about something all the time, and upset certain people, so when You changed for the better and became positive, the same person that disliked you for the negative was more negative that you were becoming a better person, they were not happy you were trying to better yourself, they wanted you to be miserable?  is that what you mean?  Cause I can SOOOOO relate on that one!  

 

3 have not gotten there yet. 4, I am not sure if its insecurity or just closed and narrow minded...  Depending where you are from, single women are looked down on for many reasons... as opposed to insecurities... or perhaps insecurities is what it all stems from.   Some I think is Archie Bunker mentality in the house... once again leading to insecurities?  ugg... yes, I agree but not lonely.   lol.

 

5.  whole lotta love... yes, I agree, you can have much but unable to take it back in.... I think that is where you have to unthink and let go and just let it happen.

 

 

Comment by SydTheSkeptic on January 3, 2011 at 10:43pm

Lima-

1 (which is actually 2, lol) YES, exact-o-mundo.

2 It's kind of in the same vein, but it was when I took on my old nickname and tried to communicate to people who were close to me why it was empowering and meaningful to me to be able to do so.  They passed it off, I believe, as an identity crisis and that made me question if they really got me as much as I thought they did.  I never insisted they use my chosen name but it made me wonder about the nature of the relationships.

5  Let go...definitely.  I have a sense this is the year of letting go.  If nothing else, I think it's time I willfully manifest it somehow (but not try too hard, of course.....that seems like such a contradiction, lol)

Comment by BlancheNoE on January 3, 2011 at 10:46pm

So does this mean you finally believe that I am a tech-dork ?

Good. I was getting tired of hearing myself say it all the time.

 ,..school starting *sniff-snort*,..well,..we'll see you next break.

Much love and thanks to you, now go create a better future for all of us (by aiming those kids in a better direction).

Comment by SydTheSkeptic on January 3, 2011 at 10:52pm

Doh!!  Blanchie thinks her powers of reverse-psychology will work their magic on me but I'm impervious to her...ooh, soft shiny hair.....

Yup, you're a tech-dork.

Comment by lima on January 3, 2011 at 10:59pm

I kinda counted one and two as one  =)   yin and yan...

 

sometimes I don't think I get me as much as I think I do...

 

I think every year is a let go year... 

Comment by SydTheSkeptic on January 3, 2011 at 11:00pm
Lima- SO true, all of the above!
Comment by Arkian Michael on January 3, 2011 at 11:29pm

ah the wise owl the night before class- go get'em girl!

I can't tipe i mean speel I can't cook either but i'm willing to learn.. at least cooking, other wise I may suffer the consaquence of malnutrition, hmm.Well, there goes Mustang Sally.

 

Still I have faith that will happen, just not this week.

 

xoo

Arkian Michael

 

 

Comment by photo2010 on January 4, 2011 at 1:33am

1)Old cliche.."there is some truth in every statement". Well, I don't believe that, but I don't think many ppl I know have been negative towards themselves at least in front of me. I'm more famliar with ppl who are hyper-critical towards others, and towards me, and I'd like to know how they got so f'n perfect. (ok, take deep breath, release, that's better ;)

 

2)Ppl who want to change you. Sometimes I feel they have good intentions, other times I think they are trying to put me in a box. Example: relatives who for years would visit and the topic always turned to why my Mother and I should apply to a nursing home. This began when my Mother was still very healthy, in fact healthier than me. Granted there are valid reasons and times to have these discussions, but this became badgering and sometimes yelling matches. Sad. I expect the badgering will continue towards me..and I have to say..this is partly why I understand and am sympathetic towards your neighbor Syd. I will resist this as long as I am able.

 

3) ( I think I messed up the numbering system lol ) Therapists..agree, when they piss you off, they're probably onto something.

 

4) Single-ness..i lost my self confidence when I became ill. Then just lost the will to look anymore.

 

5) That ship has sailed.

 

Sorry to be a Donald Downer, OTOH, this is the one place on the internets I feel it's safe to

discuss this stuff. I mean, it IS the Ark ;-)

Comment by SydTheSkeptic on January 4, 2011 at 7:10pm

Kev-When I recognize that I'm judging someone BIG-time, I laugh at myself because now I can see it- that 99% of the time, it's something I don't like in myself.  The other 1% is TOTALLY justified. Hehe

 

Omigosh, funny you should mention my neighbor.  She's asked me to go sledding with her!!!   I probably will.  lol

I think, with regard to people who resist your attempts to change...I wonder if they just feel threatened by the idea that you could grow, and possibly grow away from them.

 

Kev- with regard to your illness, I'm glad you have the internet to still feel you're able to connect with people and not feel alone.  (Although, I know some folks who are surrounded by friends and lovers and they say they suffer profound loneliness- go figure).  
Comment by SydTheSkeptic on January 4, 2011 at 9:52pm
Pyper- The lights are out on your text.  What's that very last part on #4? 

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