RE:- Bigger Than You - Friendship

Comment by spacemonkey1310 on March 2, 2010 at 9:26pm

Interesting answer and nice to meet you.

Comment by NatureJunkie on March 3, 2010 at 1:36am

I like this. Friendship is something sacred to me. I think of friendships as having a life of their own, something independent from the parties involved. There is me, there is my friend, and then the friendship between us is itself a whole separate entity.

Comment by BlancheNoE on March 3, 2010 at 7:17am

Very nice.The best answers are ever-changing,..and @ NatureJunkie,...my husband always says 1 and 1 make 3.

Comment by CoZzMiX on March 3, 2010 at 7:44am

Or possibly 1 and 1 make 1 :)

Comment by CoZzMiX on March 3, 2010 at 9:30am

Hello everybody. being new to this community I'm still still not sure how everything works, so I don't know who sees this so bare with me :) There are some interesting points being made here. One thing I have noticed both here and in the comments on YouTube is a differentiation between the concept of family and friends, Personally I think the two are not mutually exclusive groups, friends can sometimes become like family over time isn't that the basis for most really strong marriages? and family can sometimes also be friends. I'm not saying that a strong family connection is not different to a strong friendship but I didn't intend to say that I would put friends before family. I do however think the values associated with friendship such as Tolerance, Respect, A willingness to share in both the good and bad times without expectation and the ability to listen and understand without passing judgment are vital to our survival as a species in a world which is constantly shrinking... and well worth putting my life on the line for should that become necessary in order protect and propagate them.

Comment by Combustication07 on March 3, 2010 at 11:19pm

I agree with this idea/concept. The only things I think I would argue are:
1) Sibling family you generaly do not seek out, but grow with them, or away from them depending on the way your life goes. Friends you are drawn too and discover along the way. You choose to be with or without them. Marriage of course is different because it takes on both friend and family roles.
2) Although I except my friends for who they are and forgive all things, I believe I have high expectations of them. I expect more from them because they ARE my friends, so I hold them in a place dearer then others. Does that make since?
Hehe well here is me sharing my ideas...with my friends. :)

Comment by CoZzMiX on March 4, 2010 at 9:49am

@ Combustication07 ... I think I agree for the most part, I too probably hold my friends to higher standards than lose acquaintances, but I don't feel that I have any rights regarding friends... I think friendship is more about giving without the need of payment, communicating without the need to agree and sharing experiences,ideas and feelings just because! When I talk about Family also being Friends I am talking about those people in our family with whom we would have been friends regardless of weather we met through blood ties or social interactions. There are people who say we are all one family and genetically we are... go back far enough and we all have many common ancestors with each other (we may be fruit from distant branches of the tree but we all without exception have the same roots) When I talk about friends sometimes being like family I suppose what I really mean is people who feel kindred or put differently people who share a common outlook on life to such an extent that a degree of loyalty, respect and caring develops which could be described as similar to family.

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