I'm posting this because I am concerned that the couple who help my Mother and me might harm us, and we have nobody to help us that lives nearby.
Has anyone had help in your home for things like cooking, cleaning, or various other tasks, but the people helping you make you uncomfortable, or they take advantage of you?
This is the case with a couple who helps my Mother and me.
They borrow money BESIDES what we pay them, and don't pay it back. They use my Mother's car, (with our permission), and we pay for their auto insurance. I provide them with a cell phone for emergencies, and I discovered they were making international calls to Jamaica with it. The other day, one of them was opening boxes containing personal items of mine, just five feet away from me! I don't think he took anything, but I have heard them discussing taking things. I have begun hiding valuables. I am looking for other help, but it is beyond our means. Professional aides in our area charge $200 a day or more. I don't know what to do. Frankly, they scare me to some degree because my Mom and I are vulnerable. In the beginning they seemed great, but the situation has deteriorated. He is a doorman in our highrise. His girlfriend is our primary help, but she is on state assistance for emotional problems. This is sadly the level of help we can afford. We are not on Medicaid, and don't want to go on Medicaid.
I'm afraid for my Mother and me it's not as simple as just firing them. The male works as a doorman in our building. Again the other day he was going through my personal things. He took one of my dvd's and hasn't returned it. One time he grabbed my hair and told me I'd better get a haircut. I feel like I need something for self-protection! They have access to our cars, mail, and to us physically. The woman is mentally unstable. I am afraid of what they might do if we DID fire them! I don't have any family nearby to help us. We are alone. I am disabled and my Mother is almost 86. This is not a simple matter of firing.
Has anyone been through a situation like this? What would you do?