Boodah & ZenBoy

Comment by photo2010 on December 18, 2010 at 6:21am

Boodah prancing in the snow, so joyful. :)

Comment by Marie on December 18, 2010 at 7:49am

16 is such an interesting age, one foot straddling childhood and the other in maturity. LOL They have to start the process of breaking away and learning to make adult decisions. All we can do is provide council, support, and guidance... *snort* Nothing you don't know... Just waxing nostalgic... my sons are home from school.

 

*eye roll* Tell me about it. Was shopping with the youngest yesterday and he informed me that I dropped "a crazy bomb" when talking with the cashier. HA Great, now he's parenting me! *eye roll*

Comment by Pypermarru1 on December 18, 2010 at 11:54am

I've never used the New Year to be reflective - I use it to party and play with friends.  Shallow, party of 1.

Wait, I use the shower to cry, pre-sleep to reflect, driving to rock out and reading to escape.

Not as shallow as I thought, Party of 1  :0)

 

If you'll excuse me my table is ready.

Comment by SydTheSkeptic on December 18, 2010 at 1:21pm

@Kev- she's pure border-collie-joy while sprinting with her backyard buddies.  Fun to watch, indeed.

 

@Marie- omigosh, he's an alien!!  "Crazy bomb"- that's funny.

Your words are wise- I need reminding of all of that from time to time.   He's a student at the school that I teach at- a very small school, so I see him throughout the day in ways I've never seen him before.  Sometimes it warms my heart and other times, it sends a chill and I'm not sure how to respond.  *sigh*  but it's all part of the package.    I just have to reassure myself he'll be fine, but honestly, I do worry that I'm not giving him as many opportunities as I could to prove himself to his own "self", ya know?

I'm in emo-parent phase right now, can ya tell?  His grades were lacking this last semester, so I'm wondering if there's something up besides all the usually dramatic stuff a teen goes through.  But then your words- just let him know he's loved no matter what (that's how I read them)...that, I know, is a sure thing.  Thanks.

 

@Pyper- I hit the pillow and I'm pretty much out for the night.

I shower to clean, read to learn, watch sci-fi to escape, and cry when I feel like it (and it always feels good).

But during the new year, I actually have a little time to get creative and I can't help but go deeper (in a good way) through journaling, poetry, song-making, art, personal videos, etc.  The result is that I look at the past year and commit to change where I see it's necessary.  The big positive changes in my life have always found their origins in that process and so I cherish it.

 

The car, though...that is definitely for rockin' out!

Comment by Marie on December 18, 2010 at 7:58pm

Only bad parents don't emo over their kids. *wink* Rambly vlog just 'cause I feel for you from experience. You are not alone. haha

Comment by SydTheSkeptic on December 18, 2010 at 8:19pm

Marie, thank you SO much for your video response.  You have no idea how much I needed to hear what you said, especially the reminder that threats and stuff just make it worse.  We need to just be honest enough with each other that he feels he can come to me when he needs it.

 

"We've just got to keep them alive and out of jail."  LMAO!!  K, that's funny but those are definitely worst-case scenarios that plays out in my mind.   I try to be mindful about not projecting those fears onto him, though.  That's an energy that I know is something he could feel but not understand and therefore, he may internalize it, but they are what they are...my fears.  And wish I can turn them off.

 

It brought a smile to think of him at 25.  It's comforting to imagine it.  Maybe that's because instinctively I know it'll all be okay.

 

Thanks so much Marie.  It's good to hear your voice.  :o)

 

 

 

 

Comment by Marie on December 19, 2010 at 12:40pm

*grin* Glad I was able to help. You really hit a cord in me. I rarely vlog, let alone give advice.  LOL What the F do I know? Just another parent trying not to screw up a precious life in my care.

Comment by spacemonkey1310 on December 20, 2010 at 7:13am

*Whispers*hideherdooooooooog....

Comment by SydTheSkeptic on December 20, 2010 at 12:27pm

Space- lol. My family's got a macabre sense of humor.  Don't think it's not already been suggested.  ;o)

Comment by NatureJunkie on December 27, 2010 at 10:34am

I can tell you from experience what it's like to have been the coolest thing in the world to my two nieces, only to experience their contempt as they go through the eye-rolling phase. The older one outgrew it a long time ago and became human again.

 

Once in a while, I re-read the journal stuff I wrote as a teenager. Yes, I was stupid enough to record my own eye-rolling phase, a time in my life of which I am now deeply embarrassed. At least there is a sense of justice in knowing that someday, the teenagers in our lives will recognize what jerks they were. And that we loved them anyway.

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